'Grow up' is such an overrated phrase. We hear it from different people so often that it has lost its true meaning now. When people say 'grow up', what do they mean? Do they mean that like age wise 'grow up' or more like a statement, 'grow up'!! like behave like an adult should. But here's the thing -- who defines how an adult should behave and at what age do you really transition from being an adolescent to being an adult? Adults comprise of such a broad age group that a 22 year old can be an adult and so can a 52 year old. But there is a gap of 30 years here, and this is in itself a lifetime. The dictionary defines an 'adult' as someone who is "fully grown or developed". And this is where it gets all tricky. What they mean is fully grown or developed "mentally"-- but we mostly assume that it means "physically". And this is where it gets trickier. It's easy to know if someone is fully developed physically but do we measure mental development/ growth? And just because someone has grown fully physically does not in any way determine their mental growth.
Most of us talk about how time flies and also how we don't understand how we got to where we are.. like when did we grow up?! But the funny thing is that somewhere between being a child and becoming an adult, we were expected to have 'grown up'. And it's not like this happens in one big life changing moment where you realize you've now become an adult. We cam barely keep up with the numbers and life as it goes by after like 20.. but somewhere at some point we should have grown up. Some might say that they have experienced a life altering time where they realized they have grown but that was not the case with me. No big event happened in my life where I particularly felt like something changed and now I'm an adult. Emm, nope didn't happen. So one fine day during my 28 years on this planet when I realized I was only 2 years away from 30 I decided to take things in my own hands and just grow up. And this is how I define being a grown up --
1. To not be insecure about friendships.
2. To be sure about my decisions and choices.
3. To be willing to stand up and accept my choices.
4. To not create problems that are not necessary - more like have peace whenever possible.
5. To manage situations and stress on my own - to the extent possible.
6. Start believing in myself more - if I don't, no one else will.
7. To think for myself a lot more.
8. To understand that I have free will.
9. To stop blaming the past.
10. To dream and enjoy life in all its glory.
Most of us talk about how time flies and also how we don't understand how we got to where we are.. like when did we grow up?! But the funny thing is that somewhere between being a child and becoming an adult, we were expected to have 'grown up'. And it's not like this happens in one big life changing moment where you realize you've now become an adult. We cam barely keep up with the numbers and life as it goes by after like 20.. but somewhere at some point we should have grown up. Some might say that they have experienced a life altering time where they realized they have grown but that was not the case with me. No big event happened in my life where I particularly felt like something changed and now I'm an adult. Emm, nope didn't happen. So one fine day during my 28 years on this planet when I realized I was only 2 years away from 30 I decided to take things in my own hands and just grow up. And this is how I define being a grown up --
1. To not be insecure about friendships.
2. To be sure about my decisions and choices.
3. To be willing to stand up and accept my choices.
4. To not create problems that are not necessary - more like have peace whenever possible.
5. To manage situations and stress on my own - to the extent possible.
6. Start believing in myself more - if I don't, no one else will.
7. To think for myself a lot more.
8. To understand that I have free will.
9. To stop blaming the past.
10. To dream and enjoy life in all its glory.
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